Why do we judge?
Why do we compare?
What causes negative bias?
During the last term review in my daughter’s school, we were informed about how she doesnt want to try and doesnt want to get dirty during certain activity.
I listened and allowed the teacher to finish talking hoping she will highlight one strength.
Sadly This is us,every one of us. unfortunately our negative biasness takes over everything. Why are we hardwired with negativity and what can we do about it?
Why do we compare our child’s artwork with others? Last week I had a parent who asked me what was this week’s artwork about and everyone in the house thinks the work is not nice.
Nice, not nice, good, bad, beautiful, ugly… who decides?
This particular child has been struggling with perfection, we saw progress last week where she tried without thinking much and this is the response she received at home.
One of the few things I share with the children every week like a Mantra is “the only person you compare yourself with is yourself!” “there is no such thing as perfection, its progress”
It seems these days that the core of modern parenting advice is based on standardization. We don’t just have guides for checking when things might be off, but rather we are taught to worry when our children aren’t like every other child.
This isn’t fair to parents nor children. Your child isn’t like any other. They never will be. They SHOULDN’T be.
When we tell parents – that their child should be more like others we lose the ability to relish the uniqueness that each child brings. We lose the joy in finding and celebrating differences.
So, why are we judging our children?
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