7 Things To Do To Build Emotional Resilience - Brainbow Kids

7 Things To Do To Build Emotional Resilience

Share This Post

Share on facebook
Share on linkedin
Share on twitter
Share on email

Emotional Intelligence means being able to: identify and understand your own emotions,  to understand and empathize with another person’s feelings, and to respond to emotions with appropriate behaviors in a cooperative, functional, and empathetic manner. To be emotionally intelligent requires knowing who you are, your own feelings, and your own needs. It also means being able to compromise your needs in complex social situations. Developing Emotional Intelligence in children is a critical, but often overlooked

Oh by the way, is emotion the same as feeling? Who thinks it’s the same or do you know the difference?

Its science, its neuroscience

Emotion is physiological. Feeling is psychological.

Emotion is the physical cue. Sensation. That alerts us that something is going on. What we make that mean, what we think, what our internal dialogue makes out of it based on my previous experience and self-awareness decides how we feel about it. We language it as a feeling. Over a longer period of time, the feeling becomes a mood. 

There is a difference between you are angry VS You are feeling angry. I am angry VS I am feeling angry.

This is A HUGE difference. Can you see it?

Its label of a person vs label of feelings

I carried the angry person label for decades. So I really want you to understand this so you use the right language with your children. 

Being emotionally intelligent helps you work on those big emotions and become a calmer person. We call this Emotional Resilience. Emotional resilience equips people with the much-needed psychological strength to cope with stress and hardships, preventing them from falling apart or getting overwhelmed.

1. Self Care

It’s not as complicated and expensive as you imagine. It doesn’t have to be in trend. It’s definitely not phone scrolling.

It’s about asking yourself what you need and how you can make it into a routine.

Self-care requires real commitment and discipline. Drop/reduce things that don’t help your emotional strength, be it friends or hobbies. Be kind to yourself. 


2. There are 86400 seconds in a day, how many moments in this are you being mindful?

Let’s talk about Practicing mindful meditation on a regular basis. Be fully present and aware of what is happening around you so as to avoid being overwhelmed. Meditation will precipitate a deep state of peace and relaxation, which is a fundamental stepping stone towards achieving emotional resilience.

You can practice mindful breathing, mindful eating, mindful talking, mindful cooking, mindful painting. Just be in the moment. 


3. Face Adversity

We’re living in unprecedented times, and many of us are facing adversity more than ever. Chunk it down. Break down your goals. Focus on small wins and celebrate!

Obstacles provide new learning opportunities, you need to be conscious enough to notice that. Are you?


4.  Vision, Purpose

If you aren’t careful, self-pity and the feeling of unworthiness will battle you to the ground. Don’t fall into scarcity, there are enough resources for everyone on earth. The good thing is that none of that will happen if you lead a purposeful life. Self Awareness will help you understand your purpose in life and work towards it. If you have something to fight for and live for, emotional resilience will naturally come to you.


5. Be Kind

Be kind to yourself and others. Spend some time observing your thoughts. Are they harsh, negative, judgmental, or anxiety-provoking? If so, then take a deep breath and clear those thoughts and close the door to any further negative thoughts. Now fill your mind with new thoughts of kindness and love. 


6. Exercise

Physiological exercises will help improve your emotional state. Perform simple body exercises whenever you feel emotionally overwhelmed. When you feel emotionally stuck, do some yoga practices, dance, or even run. Take a walk outside just slowing down and enjoying nature.


7. Resilience

Resilience is not about bouncing back. It’s bouncing forward. “Bouncing back” is what we do when we face disappointment, defeat, and failure, but instead of wallowing or letting things keep us down, we get back up and continue on with our lives.  Lets learn about “BOUNCE FORWARD” not back! 

It enables us to accomplish more with renewed wisdom, our life-lessons enhance our personal growth, which is limitless. You become a visionary person who has clarity to understand what works and what doesn’t.


We are humans, seeking happiness everywhere except within ourselves. It starts with us. Life happens for you, life happens with you. Life makes us who we are today. To grow physically, we need healthy food, to grow mentally, we need to build your emotional resilience.


We help children grow emotionally resilient through art and craft. Get Brainbow Box today

Nandhini Sivanna

Nandhini Sivanna

Nandhini Sivanna is an ISEI certified coach. She is the founder of Brainbow Kids. Brainbow Kids builds resilient children through EQ practices via art craft and storytelling.

More To Explore


Making Friends Interpersonal Skills

What is the most important skill a person can have? There are thousands of courses, millions of books and articles, and countless tips and suggestions